Bereavement

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What does Bereavement feel like?

Bereavement affects people in different ways. There’s no right or wrong way to feel and there’s no ‘normal’. You might be flooded by emotions one day and the next you can feel ok all day. These feelings can come when you’re least expecting and them and they can be triggered by the strangest things or often wont have any trigger at all.

You might feel:

  • Shock and numbness – this is usually the first reaction to the death, and people often speak of being in a daze
  • Overwhelming sadness – sometimes lots of crying but sometimes not too
  • Tiredness or exhaustion – emotions can take a very real physical toll
  • Anger – with them, their illness, perhaps God or what did or didn’t happen
  • Guilt – something you said or didn’t say or not being able to stop your loved one dying
All of this is perfectly normal and so is being distracted from normal day to day life. Forgetting things is common and not usually something to be overly worried about.

There are usually four stages of grief but you can feel all of these in any order, at any time and flip from one to another. They can be intense and out of control but over time you’ll start to recognise them and they should start to become less frequent, less intense, pass more quickly and become more manageable.

The four stages of Grief:

  • Accepting that your loss is real
  • Experiencing the pain of grief
  • Adjusting to life without the person who has died
  • Moving on, putting less emotional energy into grieving and putting it into something new

How can I cope with Bereavement?

Talking and sharing your feelings with someone can help. Don’t go through this alone. For some people, relying on family and friends is the best way to cope. But if you don’t feel you can talk to them much (perhaps you aren’t close, or they’re grieving too), you should consider a specially trained Bereavement Counsellor.

A Bereavement Counsellor can give you time and space to talk about your feelings, including the person who has died, your relationship, family, work, fears and the future.

Don’t be afraid to talk about the person who has died. Try to express yourself and how you’re feeling. People in your life might not mention their name because they don’t want to upset you or they just don’t know what to say. But if you feel you can’t talk to them, it can make you feel isolated.

Bereavement Counselling Generally keeping to a simple routine or schedule can help. Keeping busy and engaging in your social life can be a very positive step and there’s no need to feel guilty about being happy, even thought that’s a perfectly normal reaction too.

Anniversaries and special occasions can be hard, just do whatever you need just to get through the day. This might be taking a day off work or doing something that reminds you of that person, such as taking a favourite walk.

Feelings can last for a long time and it’s quite common to experience the thoughts and feelings for 18 months.

A Bereavement Counsellor can help

Am I Coping?

For a few weeks your feelings may be very intense and difficult before starting the subside. If they don’t then seeing a Bereavement Counsellor is a sensible step. Signs that you’re not coping and that you would benefit from some help include:
  • You don’t feel able to cope with overwhelming emotions or daily life
  • The intense emotions aren’t subsiding
  • You’re not sleeping or can’t get out of bed
  • You have symptoms of depression or anxiety
  • Your relationships are suffering
  • You’re having sexual problems
  • You’re becoming accident-prone
  • You’re caring for someone who isn’t coping well
  • You neglect yourself or your family
  • You feel you can’t go on without the person you’ve lost
  • You feel you cant face going to work
  • You’re taking your anger out on other
  • You feel depressed or frequently anxious

These feelings are normal as long as they don’t last for a long time. If you feel it’s too long, maybe more than a few weeks, or your family say they’re worried, then it’s time to get help. As always getting help sooner rather than later is a good idea.

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In your first session your Bereavement Counsellor will walk you through the counselling process and ‘Contract for Counselling’. This explains what happens in the sessions, the boundaries, confidentiality, supervision and what to do if you have concerns. You may also be asked to complete a simple assessment form that helps describe your feelings. This assessment may be repeated occasionally to help understand your progress.

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After this you’ll start talking more about your issues and feelings in as much or as little detail as you want. You may decide not to bring ‘everything’ into your first session or you may decide open up about all the issues you face, it’s up to you. Your Counsellor will start to understand your challenges more and will start to get some insights into you. You’ll also start to understand more about how your Counsellor works and some insight into what you can expect. Sessions can be challenging, fun, sad, frustrating and feeling a range of emotions is common. Remember that one session is rarely like another and it’s all a process working towards finding your happiness.

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Not quite sure?

Many people are nervous when they start to think about counselling and this is perfectly normal. Let’s face it, of the one in five people in the UK who have had counselling it’s likely that most of them were unsure at the beginning. Following millions of people into counselling means you’re not alone in getting some help; more often it’s the first positive step to feeling better.

If you’re starting to feel like you need some help, you’re struggling to resolve some issues or some aspect of your life, you need someone helpful to talk to, someone who wont judge and is trained in supporting and helping; then counselling is certainly worth considering.

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Two of the most common reactions to counselling are:
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