Talking and sharing your feelings with someone can help. Don’t go through this alone. For some people, relying on family and friends is the best way to cope. But if you don’t feel you can talk to them much (perhaps you aren’t close, or they’re grieving too), you should consider a specially trained Bereavement Counsellor.
A Bereavement Counsellor can give you time and space to talk about your feelings, including the person who has died, your relationship, family, work, fears and the future.
Don’t be afraid to talk about the person who has died. Try to express yourself and how you’re feeling. People in your life might not mention their name because they don’t want to upset you or they just don’t know what to say. But if you feel you can’t talk to them, it can make you feel isolated.
Generally keeping to a simple routine or schedule can help. Keeping busy and engaging in your social life can be a very positive step and there’s no need to feel guilty about being happy, even thought that’s a perfectly normal reaction too.
Anniversaries and special occasions can be hard, just do whatever you need just to get through the day. This might be taking a day off work or doing something that reminds you of that person, such as taking a favourite walk.
Feelings can last for a long time and it’s quite common to experience the thoughts and feelings for 18 months.
A Bereavement Counsellor can help