Marriage Counselling in Bromleyadmin2018-01-08T22:53:35+00:00
What is Marriage Counselling?
Marriage Counselling is an effective way to help you feel better about your marriage. Marriage Counselling allows you to deal with any negative feelings or behaviours you have within your marriage and helps to overcome your issues. It’s a talking therapy that allows you to talk about your problems and feelings together in a secure, supportive and dependable environment.
Talking therapy such as Counselling is ideal for marriages as at their core a marriage is about communication; and that’s not just talking! It’s how we listen and respond, it’s also our body language, actions and all the different forms of physical interaction and intimacy. Importantly it’s about communicating to ‘get your needs met’ and that’s both of your needs!
A Marriage Counsellor is trained to listen with empathy (by putting themselves in your shoes). They can help you deal with any negative thoughts and feelings you have about your marriage. Counselling will be series of face to face sessions on a weekly basis for about 50 minutes at a time.
A Counsellor won’t tell you what to do, provide a “quick fix” or give you their personal opinions. They also won’t tell you to if your right for each other or if you should separate. They will help you to improve your communication and never judge you.
How can Marriage Counselling help?
There are plenty of traps a marriage can fall into. All the strains of everyday life take their toll on us and when you’re not communicating, or not listening, you’re unlikely to get your needs met and your marriage will start to suffer.
Sometimes talking to someone new is all it takes for you to gain fresh perspective and realise what’s going on. Your Counsellor will have the skills and experience to guide you through to your own way of making things better.
Marriage Counselling helps you:
Communicate in a more constructive way
Learn why arguments escalate
Negotiate and resolve conflicts where possible
Reflect on the past and how it operates in the present
Understand how external factors such as family values and lifestyle affect your marriage
A Marriage Counsellor will never advise that you part ways and that is never the aim. If you believe that’s the only way to move forward then your Counsellor will support both of you in that process too.
Usually people leave Marriage Counselling with a positive outlook, fresh views and a better outlook. If nothing else you should find that you’re able to communicate more effectively.
Marriage Counselling improves communication and helps you in meeting your needs!
What can Marriage Counselling help with?
If there’s an issue with your relationship that’s causing you negative feelings or behaviours then Marriage Counselling can help.
Common issues are:
Lack of communication
Different goals and values
Roles and behaviours
Different parenting styles
Respect and Love
Different sexual needs or other sexual issues
Betrayal or affair, lack of trust
Whatever the issue, speaking to a professional is often an incredibly positive step forward! For some people, Marriage Counselling can transform their relationships and their lives; for others it can help solve a specific problem and move forward with more confidence and less anxiety.
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It really depends on the issue you are facing and how you feel about it. If you are worried about an aspect of your marriage, if there has been a difficult event that you’re concerned about or if you feel you’re not getting what you need and can’t communicate effectively anymore, then certainly you should consider Marriage Counselling.For some, the suggestion of marriage Counselling is a ‘last resort’. While of course this is sometimes the case, you do not have to wait until things get that bad before trying Marriage Counselling. Many married couples use their sessions as a way to keep their marriage healthy and address any underlying concerns that may become conflicts in the future.
Sometimes one partner wants to try Marriage Counselling whilst the other doesn’t. This can be hard on both of you. It’s always possible to start on your own first and maybe your partner goes on their own too. Starting this way can help break down some reluctance and can be an easier way in. You can start to see how a Counsellor works with you by not judging and giving you respect; also you can see that your Counsellor isn’t there to take sides. It’s also quite common for one of you to want to talk in private with a Counsellor first especially if there are things you don’t feel comfortable talking about with your partner. Obviously your Counsellor will want to start seeing both of you together as soon as possible.
Many people are nervous when they start to think about counselling and this is perfectly normal. Let’s face it, of the one in five people in the UK who have had counselling it’s likely that most of them were unsure at the beginning. Following millions of people into counselling means you’re not alone in getting some help; more often it’s the first positive step to feeling better.
If you’re starting to feel like you need some help, you’re struggling to resolve some issues or some aspect of your life, you need someone helpful to talk to, someone who wont judge and is trained in supporting and helping; then counselling is certainly worth considering.
Two of the most common reactions to counselling are:
“I wish i’d started sooner!” or “it felt like a weight had been lifted”. If you think you might want to feel like this then why not give it a go. At Novo Counselling we have a ‘First Session Guarantee’ so you’ve really nothing to lose!
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When thinking about counselling you need a Counsellor you can trust from a reputable organisation. At Novo Counselling we’re here to help! We’re not a charity or run by the NHS and we like to think we’re a little different. We’re professional, ethical and efficient but we never lose sight that it’s your life and your choice. We offer you comfort and security whilst supporting you through what can be a very emotional and challenging time.
There are plenty of reasons to choose Novo Counselling and here are just some:
Number One Private Counselling Practice in South East London.
We hand pick our Counsellors based on their qualifications, skills and experience and promote continuous professional development.
Our clinical supervision ensures our clients always get the best support possible.
We offer a tiered service offering affordability and excellence.
We have specialist Counsellors supporting a broad range of therapeutic needs.
With Novo Counselling being a private Counselling practice, you get the benefit of easy access to support, regular repeating appointments, a commitment to you and your emotional well being, no waiting lists and confidence in our ethical practice.